Showing posts with label benefits of confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label benefits of confidence. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Choosing Clarity and Confidence for 2010


Have you noticed that this year has flown by and is nearly over! Yep, that's it. Ten months of the year are now history.

That's the nature of life and that's what allows us to savor and appreciate our time here. I heard someone say recently that you don't begin to live until you face death.

This year has been one of huge transformation for me. I finished my PhD in Communication after 6 years of graduate work, and I realized more clearly than ever that I don't want to play the academic game of going for tenure. (Note that no university is asking me to apply for tenure at this point.) I've had this sneaking suspicion for a long time, but like many of you, it took some reflection for me to begin to trust my ability to create a life that supports me in every way.

I'm excited about getting ready for 2010. Not in a hyper way, but I have a calm confidence that it will be a year of continued growth and prosperity for me, a time of reaping and sowing new seeds. My life is meaningful and profitable.

Like many of you, I'm not doing more things; actually I'm paring down my activities and focusing on leverage. Leverage gets you more time for yourself, in my case, to do nothing. ;-)

Here are some questions to help you get ready for another trip around the sun:

- What are you doing to get ready for the next year?

- How clear are you on your true purpose and priorities?

- What are you doing differently that will produce better results for you?

- What relationships and activities are you letting go of because they don't serve you?

- Do you trust yourself to make choices?

It's fun to take inventory, assess your progress and develop new plans. We're still in October, barely, and here's to living with greater clarity and confidence in 2010!

Sunday, September 6, 2009

The Real Power of SmartConfidence


This is what top marketing expert Seth Godin, author of Tribes and other best-selling books, has to say about confidence: All the evidence I've seen shows that positive thinking and confidence improves performance. In anything.

Research strongly supports these findings about people with higher self-confidence. They are…

· Happier
· Higher performing
· Better at setting and respecting boundaries
· Saying “no” effortlessly
· Selling more with less stress
· Taking better care of their bodies
· Avoiding manipulation and being manipulated
· Taking more calculated risks
· Making more money
· Taking more time off
· Magnetically attracting like-minded people to them
· Enjoying richer, more fulfilling lives

So, why aren't more of us so self confident?

The answer is because we're often so comfortable with what we have, we prefer our rut to the unknown.

And change, even the most positive, brings collateral effects which are not totally predictable.

Another reason is what we'll call the crab factor: when one crab gets uppity and tries to leave the bucket, the other crabs will pull him down.

The older you get, the more you see how the reasons we used to play small were so silly. Aren't you glad you're past that now?