Confidence is a magnet in the best sense of the word -- it will draw people to you and make your daily life --and theirs -- a lot more pleasant. Donald Trump
Being clear is essential for effective and productive communication.
So, what does it really mean to be clear? I know we all have an idea of what we want: less work, more pay, robust health, good relationships.
Having a generalized concept of what you want is life is the beginning of clarity, but it is not the whole enchilada. You need to think at a more micro level - about specifically what you are willing to do to achieve your goals, and what you are willing to put up with from others in the process.
If you think about these things in advance, then when the inevitable issues and problems appear, you're in a much better place to deal with them and move foreward.
If you are absolutely certain what your objective is in any speaking situation, you are much closer to hitting a home run.
Here are some questions to get you started thinking about how clear you really are:
- Do you have some time each week to think about what is working well and what isn't"
- Are you aware of things that habitually seem to trigger situations that bring you down, or bring out your worst?
- Are you getting enough rest?
- Can you describe in detail your ideal client?
- While everything in your life may not unfold each day exactly as planned, are you certain that you're on the right road and making definite progress?
The challenge with answering these questions is that you realize that you may have to do something uncomfortable, or something that you know people you love will not understand or support.
But that's what it is to be a confident person. You think things through, and make decisions and accept the fallout. That's why most people are afraid of getting too clear about things. That comfort zone may be tiny and restrictive, but it is comfortable!
