Thursday, September 25, 2008

Dealing with Self Doubt

If you're like most Mixonian readers, you want to do the right thing. You want to move ahead in your profession and/or business, have warm and healthy relationships, and take care of yourself, too.

Sometimes, making the right choice is so obvious, and a lot of times it's not.

One thing I've learned from entrepreneur Marie Foleo, is how to dump self doubt. She says, assume everything you do is perfect. That way, when things come up, you deal with those things, but you're not wasting time and even more important, your energy in second guessing.

If you go to a restaurant and order a tuna sandwich, and then see a provocative hamburger, just remind yourself that the tuna is perfect for you today. You can always get a burger later.

This is from Marie Forleo's blog post of October 31, 2007:

Moving forward, I want you to pretend you’re doing your life EXACTLY right.

In fact, act as if YOU CAN’T DO IT WRONG!

Pretend that you know exactly what you’re doing and there’s no possible way you could make a mistake. Realize that closed door is really the Universe taking care of you for something down the road.


This is one of the keys to unleashing your full potential. Why? Because once you are free from the grip of self-doubt and the useless thoughts that follow, you start to go for things, create new possibilities and express yourself into the world.

If you decide to major in economics, but wonder if business would have been better, work around it. Take business courses, or change your major if you want, but don't berate yourself for starting out as an economics major. Lot's of wonderful professionals get an econ major, and go on to do fabulous things totally unrelated to economics.

What you need is faith that things will work out for the best, even if you don't control the universe. Think of it this way, no one can predict exactly what's going to unfold today. So, you know what you want to happen, you look for it, and accept that you will find the path for you.

The point is, berating yourself, or dwelling on what you should of done, is a complete waste of life. Keep moving forward!