You are really going to appreciate this message. I was so excited to finally find real insight into a question that's been bothering me for YEARS. That is, knowing the difference between fear of doing something, and a warning from your intuition that says "don't go there or you'll be sorry."
You know your intuition is reliable. But fears sometimes muddy the message. Because of this confusion, sometimes we don't follow our intuition when we should, and go on and do something that doesn't work out, or regret not doing something. Fortunately, you can always turn your ship around.
Lynn Robinson has an interesting job. She's an intuition coach. One of her many books out is called, Trust Your Gut, and I found it insightful and interesting. But, best of all, she addresses directly the fear vs. intuition question.
Here is a summary of what she wrote, together with my take on this. First of all, Robinson writes that it really can be difficult to know the one from the other.
1. Some anxiety is normal -- especially any time you're making a big decision or change in your life. So, some fear can be normal, but if you're feeling panic, back off.
2. Take baby steps. Starting off with small moves can clarify your direction. Robinson suggests taking a class, speaking with a colleague, or reading a book related to your situation.
3. Consider the timing. If the decision feels like a "definitely maybe," perhaps a delay is what you need. I really liked this from her, When I push the envelope and try to force things to happen, I find I've stepped out of the flow and ease that usually characterize intuitively inspired decisions and action (158).
4. Revisit your goal. Think about what you really want to gain from this situation; maybe there's an alternative route to the desired outcome. Rushing things without feeling inspired is probably not the way you want to go.
5. Review your options. When it comes down to it, there are limited ways to continue. Go over this list and see which option feels best for you.
- quit
- persevere
- alter your course
- put the project on hold for a period of time
- try something new
- ask for advice from someone who has been successful in a similar endeavor
- work on the project part-time
- discuss the situation with others who may be involved
In my work with teaching and coaching, I see clearly how confidence converts into making better decisions. Now you have an additional resource to get you closer to your ideal life.
