Free Wealth-building Affirmations

You may have noticed I'm a fan of financial expert, Chellie Campbell. She taught me two really helpful things: one is to realize that not everyone needs to be on your team, and the other is her explaining why affirmations work, even if you don't believe in them.

Here is what she wrote in From Zero to Zillionaire about it:

Affirmations aren't magic words. They are a tool to help you get dressed, to put better emotions on your face, for the viewing public. They help you focus on what's good instead of worrying about what's bad. Worry puts a frown on your face. Confidence puts a smile on your face. Who do you want to work with, frowning people, or smiling people? (24)

Chellie also wrote about the nocebo effect. You can read the Mixonian post on that here. The nocebo effect is what happens when you have negative expectations....you really don't want to go there.

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You can always make your own affirmations. Make them to describe your reality, in advance.

Language to Handle Rejection

Rejection is part of life. It is actually good for us, shields us from people with whom we need not get involved, and keeps us out of activities we should avoid. Nevertheless, it can hurt when hit happens.

But, if you can accept that nothing is really random and that everything brings an ultimate benefit, then maybe this so-called rejection happened to bring you closer to your goals. If you're like most people, you can quickly recall a "rejection" that turned out to be the best outcome...by far. I know in my case, not getting a job I applied for last January was wonder-full and I am so glad they did not select me.

Jack Canfield's answer to rejection is this: N E X T.

This excerpt comes from Chellie Campbells' The Wealthy Spirit:

I remember that Jack Nicholson, upon accepting his Academy Award for Best Actor in One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, said something like, "I dedicate this to my agent -- who told me ten years ago I had no business being a serious actor."

All successful people have stories like this to tell. Albert Einstein failed math. Winston Churchill failed English. Failure is just another step on the road to success. If you get rejected by someone, they just aren't "your people!" Here are some of the rejection experiences of very famous, successful people:

Alex Haley received 200 rejection notices before Roots became a mega best-seller.

Chicken Soup for the Soul was rejected by thirty-three New York publishers. The best-selling franchise has now sold over 50 million books.

John Grisham's first novel, A Time to Kill, was turned down by more than thirty agents and fifteen publishers. There are no more than sixty million copies of his books in print.

The reviewer of Fred Astaire's first screen test said, "Can't act. Can't sing. Can dance a little."

Go forth and conquer. Don't let negative people stop you.

The Trap of False Dichotomies

Dichotomies, or black and white thinking, are of enormous value in life. I think the whole computer world operates on the 1 or 0 dichotomy. However, many times thinking in dichotomies is limiting your choices unnecessarily.

In The Wealthy Spirit, Chellie Campbell writes, "As I work with people to help them reduce their financial stress, I look at the choices they've made that put them in a financial position that isn't viable. One of the problems that seems endemic is the mental habit of considering only two options before making a decision" (138).

For example:

Do I quit my job and pursue my dream, or I do remain a slave to the corporation...or the university?

Well, you could pursue your dream occupation part-time while you continue saving money, making more contacts to support you financially, in the future.

Should I buy generic or brand name?

If what you're buying is really important to you, like maybe coffee, buy the brand you like. If it is not so important, buy generic. And you can always look for branded items on sale, especially these days!

Do we meet at your house or mine for coffee?

We could meet at The Tipsy Teapot instead.

That's why creative thinking is soooooo important. But to come up with the best solutions, you've got to realize that there are plenty of options out there, you just need to invest the time to think them up.

That's where brainstorming is useful. Develop as many possible solutions or alternatives as possible, knowing that most of them are not viable. But you can't get to the right one until you've worked at it for awhile.

I tell my students that their writing is like the faucet at the old house at the beach. You have to let the brown water run out, before you get to the sweet, clear water.

With Whom Do You Flock Together?

If you see a red-haired lady in sparkly gold tennis shoes talking about money, that may be Chellie Campbell. Campbell teaches workshops on how to reduce financial stress and is author of two books on prosperity. I'm reading one, Zero to Zillionaire: 8 Foolproof Steps to Financial Peace of Mind, and I just had to share this with you.

This comes from Chapter 4, Surround Yourself with People Who Make You Rich and Happy:

I divide the world into two groups: My People and Not My People. My People are Dolphins -- happy, friendly, and rich. Not My People come in two species: Sharks, who want to eat you, or Tuna, who want to complain to you. You can tell who's who by the way you feel after you've been with them, and the state of your bank account. Dolphins put money in your pocket and a song in your heart. Sharks rob you and leave you bleeding. Tuna cry for you but can't help you. If you want to be wealthy, you have to learn to be a Dolphin and choose your fiends and co-workers wisely. Don't borrow from a loan shark. Don't ask unsuccessful people for career advice. Get Zillionaire advice from Dolphins, and you'll become one yourself (89).

Well, later in that chapter of her book, Campbell clarifies that people can be Tuna at times, Shark at others, and may eventually become Dolphins. I think it's important to remember, though, that we are all inter-connected: dolphins, sharks, and tuna. Even if you choose to limit the time you spend with certain people, you can still love them (or try to) as hurting or fearful, or who-knows-what-their-problem-is members of the human family.

Also I think we need to careful about judging other people, remember the words of Mother Teresa, "If you judge people, you don't have time to love them."

Those 2 caveats aside, I agree that we need to be careful about some people who either try to take advantage of you, or bring you down with their incessant complaining.