Take Care with Email Rhetoric

I personally know of 2 marriages whose demise was catalyzed by the mis-interpretation of email messages. One of those was mine, so I have valuable experience with this issue.

One of the maxims of communication studies is that in any message, the actual words we use account for only 7 percent of what is transmitted. Now whether or not this is entirely accurate remains an open question, I mean how can you quantify it down to exactly 7 percent? (The rhetoric of statistics is material for a different post.) But, the proportion does resonate.Think about how many times you've said, or thought, "it wasn't what he said, it was the way he said it."

So, when trafficking in email, you're using a communication medium that leaves out a full 93 percent of the message. The vast majority of the message is omitted, and you're reading the little bit that's left, the words.

No wonder some people allow their feelings to get damaged.

Sally and I were discussing this recently; even I got offended by a person's lack of empathy in a recent email message. Sally reminded me that if the message had been communicated in person, or even by phone, there would have been sufficient context to lend more understanding. With email, you've got to constantly give all benefits of all doubts. People are just not that careful about the emails they write; everyone is too busy and distracted.

So, email is great for the transmission of emotion-free messages and light messages. I do not recommend the reading of email intended for other people, it is impossible to correctly ascertain the context that surrounds other people's messages. It's hard enough to interpret your own.

Have a super day, I'm going to check my email.

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