Wednesday, February 11, 2009

9 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint-Free Starting Now

by Christine Kane

In my upcoming Uplevel Your Life Mastery Program, there's a contract. It's a commitment that each participant will go complaint-free, criticism-free, whine-free, and gossip-free for the full seven weeks of the course. That's 49 days, baby! What does that have to do with Upleveling your Life? Everything! First off, let's get one thing out of the way: It's not about "being nice." This is much deeper.

It's about understanding the power of your Attention. If you have a big juicy Intention or Dream - then your attention is the daily practice of manifesting that goal or dream. It is the essence of Creativity. So, if I'm working with you, I want you to experience the power of shifting your attention from the so-called problem, so it can attract the many solutions! Here are 9 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint-Free Today:

1 - When you're complaint-free, you find solutions rather than staying mucked in the problem. If you don't offer yourself the option of complaining, then you train your brain to actually find solutions and get ideas. As Maya Angelou says, "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain."

2 - When you're complaint-free, you shrink your ego. Complaining is like weight-training for your ego.It makes your ego stronger because it makes someone or something else wrong. And it makes you right. Your ego becomes inflated and puffed up. When you cease the complaining/criticizing/gossiping habit, you tell your ego that your spirit is in charge, not your ego!

3 - When you're complaint free for 21-Days, you've started a new habit and created a new you. Experts tell us it takes 21-days to form a new habit. And while it does take some trial and error to get through those 21-days, most of my clients notice that after only 7-days, they tolerate negativity less. After 2-weeks, they report that when they slip up, they can instantly self-correct!

4 - When you're complaint-free, it's a conversation starter. Imaginary scenario: Hal rushes into your office to gossip. You get to simply smile and say, "Gosh Hal, you know, I'd love to join in, but I'm in the middle of Upleveling my Life. I signed a contract to go Complaint/Gossip-Free. Wanna look at it?" Hal says, "Huh? What's that?" Poof! The energy of the conversation shifts! It goes in a different direction and you get to experience that wildly exciting lightness where gossip would have once existed!

5 - When you're complaint-free, it's a conversation deepener. Hal will listen for a while and then say, "Wow, that's a really great idea. I always notice how easy it is to complain, and I want to be more self-responsible..." You'll share a deeper connection when you each admit that you want to live happier and more focused lives.

6 - When you're complaint-free, you attract new energy.
My clients have reported this one change so frequently, that I barely blink an eye anymore. When you go complaint free, you simply start attracting more positive people to you. The negative people will walk away and think you're a complete idiot. But then, you'll start noticing positive curious people entering your life because you're so much fun to be around.

7 - When you're complaint-free, you banish lazy thinking. Think about it. You can't get much lazier than complaining and gossiping. It's the same well-worn neural pathway you've trudged down day after day, along with 95% of the population. When you're complaint-free, you go a different route. With alertness and alacrity, you find new ways of seeing things. (Plus, you get to use words like alacrity!)

8 - When you're complaint-free, you create happiness. It's challenging at first, yes. But after a few weeks, the common response I get from my clients is this: "You know what? I'm SO much happier!" That's because complaining is just a habit, and it does nothing but drag us down. When your attention is forced to find new places to land, your subconscious becomes a "happiness-seeking missile." And because you're so powerful, you find it!

9 - When you're complaint free with a group, you get to soar on the updraft of the great group energy. When groups work together, magic happens. It's why I created a Platinum Coaching and Mastermind group this year. It's why I invite my blog readers to join in on prayer lists each time I lead my women's retreats. When you link up with a group of like-minded people, effortlessness is created. So - create a cool updraft with the many thousands of people who subscribe to this eZine. Go complaint-free!

Performer, songwriter, and creativity consultant Christine Kane publishes her 'LiveCreative' weekly ezine with more than 4,000 subscribers. If you want to be the artist of your life and create authentic and lasting success, you can sign up for a FRE*E subscription to LiveCreative at

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While Christine Kane is best known for her hip and catchy songs, and the down-to-earth wit of her live performances, her fans and students share that they are inspired most by her message of living authentically, passionately and courageously. Christine's philosophy is that you are the artist and your life is your work of art. That, she says, is what it means to "Live Creative." She now shares this message nationally, speaking to groups ranging from the CIA to the American Hospital Association to NICU therapists. Christine's award-winning blog ranks among the top 10,000 blogs on the internet. She has designed a coaching program to support women in their own empowerment. If you liked today's article, you'd love to spend a weekend with Christine at her "Unstoppable Power of Intention" Retreat for women, June 5-7, 2009. Click here to find out more!